Stimulating a woman with the fingers is a fine move in foreplay. Foreplay is best used with fingers, mouth, tongue and other gentler body parts. You can rub the vagina with oil, the oil acts like lubrication for the sensitive areas. If you are pleasuring her so that she creates her own lubrication then that is always a good sign. You must keep some kind of moisture in place, so you can avoid causing her pain or sores. The fingertips are one of the best methods to stimulate the vagina; you want her to become excited during the foreplay.
-Kiss and Caress
The first method that is excellent for starting the process is the “Kiss and Caress”. As you lie next to your girl, kiss her on the lips passionately. Have your right leg, in between her thighs. Start with your right hand (your upper hand in this situation) at her neck (under her left ear), and slowly move your hand down her body. First move your hand down to her breasts, spend some time playing with her boobs and nipples. Your hand should be on a journey. Think about it as it has a destination, but it’s taking pit stops on the way and spending some time at each. From her breasts, move around to her spine. Slowly rub your fingers down her spine until you get to her bum. After you have grabbed, caressed and fondled her bum, come down the back of her thigh and back up through her inner thigh. Once your reach her private area slowly start rubbing her outer vagina.
When performing Sweet Vibrations think about your fingers as a vibrating massager that will be used to stimulate the clitoris. The correct pressure is important here, you will have to start lightly and determine pressure based on her reaction. One of the difficulties with this method is that some people have a hard time mimicking this movement, and also sustaining it. See if you can do it now! If you can then you’re a natural, and if not work at it. When you are performing Sweet Vibrations, take breaks during vibrating sessions by slowly circling the area around the clitoris with your fingers.
-Two In, Thumb Up
For this technique, you will be penetrating the vagina with two fingers. Make sure that your girl can handle this. Start with one finger, and determine only then if she can handle two fingers. As you penetrate with your two fingers, place your thumb in a position that will rub against her clit, each time you push your finger in and pull them out.
Remember to prepare for the night ahead of time, by clipping your nails and moisturizing your hands.
-Hit The G Spot
For this technique, place one or two fingers in her vagina. Do a “Come Here” motion with your fingers. The G Spot is somewhat near her belly button, but can only be found from the inside. It feels a bit like the top of your mouth.
-Two Finger, Kiss Of Passion
For this technique you will put her over the top. It is a combination of fingers and oral. Use two fingers to penetrate, while kissing her clitoris. Make your lips like a fish, and put them right over the area. Purse them out as you penetrate in, and purse in when pulling your fingers out. It may take a while to get the coordination.
The fingertips are gentle enough to provide the right amount of stimulation. The clitoris should be the main focus of your attention while fingering her, however don’t be over aggressive as it could turn her off. There are other ways to finger a woman and these include the use multiple fingers, oral and the pinkie finger, however that’s another lesson for another day. The important point is to apply light pressure and continue to use a variety of patterns to make it interesting.